{"id":1147,"date":"2024-03-29T06:32:13","date_gmt":"2024-03-29T06:32:13","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/hectorkott.com\/?p=1147"},"modified":"2024-03-29T06:32:13","modified_gmt":"2024-03-29T06:32:13","slug":"eva-mendes-and-ryan-gosling-had-a-non-verbal-agreement-about-who-stays-home-with-the-kids-thats-probably-not-going-to-work-for-you-experts-say","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/hectorkott.com\/?p=1147","title":{"rendered":"Eva Mendes and Ryan Gosling had a &#8216;non-verbal agreement&#8217; about who stays home with the kids. That&#8217;s probably not going to work for you, experts say."},"content":{"rendered":"<p><\/p>\n<figure><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"3000\" alt=\"Actors Eva Mendes and Ryan Gosling attend &quot;The Place Beyond The Pines&quot; premiere during the 2012 Toronto International Film Festival at Princess of Wales Theatre on September 7, 2012 in Toronto, Canada.\" charset=\"\" src=\"https:\/\/i.insider.com\/6603af441caec1275a69c5e3?format=jpeg\" height=\"2363\"><figcaption>Eva Mendes and Ryan Gosling had a &quot;non-verbal agreement&quot; that she would step back from acting to be a mom if they had kids.<\/p>\n<p>Sonia Recchia\/Getty Images<\/p>\n<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<ul>\n<li>Eva Mendes says she had a &quot;non-verbal agreement&quot; with Ryan Gosling to step back from acting when they had kids.<\/li>\n<li>&quot;It was like a no-brainer,&quot; Mendes said on the &quot;<a href=\"https:\/\/www.today.com\/video\/eva-mendes-talks-career-motherhood-and-sponge-business-207697989888\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Today<\/a>&quot; show, adding she was\u00a0&quot;lucky&quot; to have that time with her kids.<\/li>\n<li>However, experts say it&#8217;s better for partners to have an open discussion and make decisions on equal standing.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Eva Mendes says she and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.businessinsider.com\/ryan-gosling-barbie-sylvester-stallone-bachelorette-inspired-ken-2024-2\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Ryan Gosling<\/a> had a &quot;non-verbal agreement&quot; that she would step back from her acting career to stay at home with their children when they decided to have kids.<\/p>\n<p>&quot;It was like a no-brainer,&quot; Mendes, 50, said on the &quot;<a href=\"https:\/\/www.today.com\/video\/eva-mendes-talks-career-motherhood-and-sponge-business-207697989888\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Today<\/a>&quot; show on Tuesday when asked about transitioning from being an actor to a full-time mom. &quot;I&#8217;m so lucky if I could have this time with my children.&quot;<\/p>\n<p>Mendes and Gosling started dating in 2011 after meeting on set while filming &quot;The Place Beyond the Pines.&quot; They&#8217;ve maintained a private <a href=\"https:\/\/www.businessinsider.com\/ryan-gosling-eva-mendes-relationship-timeline\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">relationship<\/a> ever since and share two daughters, Esmeralda and Amada.<\/p>\n<p>&quot;It was almost just like a non-verbal agreement that it was like, &#8216;Ok, he&#8217;s going to work and I&#8217;m going to work, I&#8217;m just going to work here,&#8217;&quot; Mendes said.<\/p>\n<p>She also clarified that while still works, she prefers not to act.<\/p>\n<p>&quot;I still worked, I just didn&#8217;t act because acting takes you on locations, it takes you away,&quot; she added.<\/p>\n<p>According to her <a href=\"https:\/\/www.imdb.com\/name\/nm0578949\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">IMDB<\/a> page, Mendes hasn&#8217;t acted in a show since 2014&#8217;s &quot;Lost River,&quot; which was written and directed by Gosling. However, she did some voiceover work for Bluey, a <a href=\"https:\/\/www.businessinsider.com\/tv-shows-to-watch-with-your-kids-disney-netflix-peacock-2023-8\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">kid&#8217;s television series<\/a>, in 2021.<\/p>\n<p>In a 2022 interview with <a href=\"https:\/\/variety.com\/2022\/film\/news\/why-eva-mendes-quit-acting-1235351470\/?cx_testId=48&#038;cx_testVariant=cx_undefined&#038;cx_artPos=3#cxrecs_shttps:\/\/variety.com\/2022\/film\/news\/why-eva-mendes-quit-acting-1235351470\/?cx_testId=48&#038;cx_testVariant=cx_undefined&#038;cx_artPos=3#cxrecs_s\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Variety<\/a>, Mendes also said she doesn&#8217;t really miss acting and is focused on &quot;keeping it in the home&quot; with her kids.<\/p>\n<p>Since 2022, Mendes has also been the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.prnewswire.com\/news-releases\/skura-style-announces-eva-mendes-as-new-co-owner-and-brand-ambassador-301540317.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">co-owner and brand ambassador<\/a> of a cleaning product company, Skura Style.<\/p>\n<h2>Meeting in the middle<\/h2>\n<p>Mendes and Gosling&#8217;s approach to childcare isn&#8217;t one that can be well replicated among ordinary couples, Mu Zheng, an assistant professor at the department of sociology and anthropology at the National University of Singapore, told Business Insider.<\/p>\n<p>&quot;First of all, it&#8217;s very likely Eva Mendes and Ryan Gosling reached the agreement based on a fair, egalitarian discussion and decision-making,&quot; she said. &quot;But in more regular scenarios, it may be a very gendered situation where women, most of the time, are expected to make such a choice.&quot;<\/p>\n<p>The best way for couples to navigate childcare arrangements is to be open to discussion and make decisions on an equal standing, experts say.<\/p>\n<p>&quot;Eva and Ryan seem to have an amazing connection, and their intuition may have been aligned on how to raise their family, hence why they were able to have the &#8216;non-verbal agreement,&#8217;&quot; relationship coach <a href=\"https:\/\/amiethedatingcoach.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Amie Leadingham<\/a> told BI.<\/p>\n<p>&quot;However, not all couples naturally have this type of connection, and being communicative about their needs can help create clarity and a structure that makes both people happy,&quot; she added.<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s important for partners to discuss the arrangement with each other so that they know they&#8217;re both on the same page. This can help avoid resentment, Leadingham said.<\/p>\n<h2>Every couple is different<\/h2>\n<p>However, not everyone can afford to be like Mendes and Gosling, and have one partner focus almost entirely on raising kids.<\/p>\n<p>&quot;I believe a wise strategy for any couple is the one that is agreed upon by both and that is applicable to the couple themselves and the circumstances they are in,&quot; Kenneth Tan, an assistant professor of psychology at the Singapore Management University, told BI.<\/p>\n<p>This includes factors such as in-law support, finances, as well as their actual careers, he said.<\/p>\n<p>&quot;Some couples might want the &#8216;traditional&#8217; arrangement, whereas others do not,&quot; Tan said. &quot;It should not be prescriptive in a way where we merely follow social roles or follow how others have done it.&quot;<\/p>\n<p>In the end, there is no wrong or right way to approach this matter, Leadingham said: &quot;Every family gets to create their own structure that works for them.&quot;<\/p>\n<p>When communicating, partners need to listen to understand each other&#8217;s point of view rather than defend, Leadingham said. And when dealing with conflict, creating an environment with a win-win solution for both people is essential.<\/p>\n<p>&quot;Remember, it&#8217;s not only love that keeps a couple together, it&#8217;s how they fight and resolve their problems,&quot; she added.<\/p>\n<p>More than anything else, it&#8217;s about being a team.<\/p>\n<p>&quot;Ultimately, these discussions should take place in a context where partners feel safe and secure in each other, and trust that the other is looking out for each other and that they are strong in their couplehood,&quot; Tan said. &quot;A marital couple that thinks in terms of &#8216;you&#8217; and &#8216;I,&#8217; instead of &#8216;we,&#8217; is less likely to be committed in the first place.&quot;<\/p>\n<div>Read the original article on <a href=\"https:\/\/www.businessinsider.com\/eva-mendes-ryan-gosling-non-verbal-agreement-parenting-relationship-experts-2024-3\">Business Insider<\/a><\/div>\n<p>\nFuente: https:\/\/ift.tt\/eh1Rk3G<br \/>\nPublicado: March 27, 2024 at 09:42PM<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Eva Mendes and Ryan Gosling had a &quot;non-verbal agreement&quot; that she would step back from acting to be a mom if they had kids. 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